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What do You Value? It is a choice. Oftentimes, it might seem like our values are some kind of static thing. That shouldn’t be tampered with. I mean, values are important. Right? But yet, we all have different values. Sometimes completely different values. So, which ones are “right?” And thus, which ones are “wrong”? Is there a fundamental measuring stick that we can use, and know if we are in the right? Going back to where we get our values, we could look at our family of origin. The programming of our egos, if you will. If your were born on a farm, your family values might be … to be reliable. To have a strong work ethic. To be responsible. It wouldn’t work too well if you decided you didn’t want to water the crops or feed the livestock. Those values would be fundamental to the success of the…

Maybe it is You Who is behind it all? So, imagine you are standing in front of a mirror. Perhaps fresh out of bed. Morning hair and all. And as you look at your reflection in this mirror, you try to brush the hair of the reflection itself. The brush just keeps hitting the mirror. Damn it! Can’t happen. You can’t change the reflection, by trying to alter the reflection. The source of the image decides the reflection, that the mirror is reflecting. And that source is … You. It can seem that the world is happening to us. That we are the recipient of the world, and how that goes, our experience of the world, is somehow fixed. That we are at the mercy of “reality.” Or are we? I was trudging through the challenges of a malicious boss. He was constantly belittling me. It was personal with him.…

Good Emotions Bad Emotions How do You feel? So where are you? Where are you on the emotional scale? Emotional scale? What is the emotional scale? When we bump up against “reality,” we get a reflection of sorts. An emotional radar, you might say. We project our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes up against the “reality” before us and what comes back is our “emotional” echo. It is those thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that decide where we are on this metaphorical emotional scale. Life isn’t fair. It’s not my fault. They won’t let me. I can’t. These types of thoughts and beliefs are anchored in a victim mentality. “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford We are all experiencing a form of karmic momentum. A karmic collage of experiences. We build up our thoughts, beliefs and attitudes as we go through our life. The…

What would You prefer? Draw your measure. Claim your good. What do you want more of? What do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? What would you prefer? What? The End … if you could get clear about that, you would move towards that. Clarity is a decider of sorts. The more we can get clear about what we would prefer, the more we are focusing our consciousness on what we want. It is not that we are putting judgment on the opposite, but rather, shifting our attention to what we want. Well, maybe we are putting judgment on what we don’t want. You don’t want that!  ;- ) I was noodling the idea of posturing, several decades back. I was the Chief Engineer at a TV station. And I was also studying the idea of karma. There is the notion of posturing as an arena…

Suffering is Optional The Untouchable You We have all had our struggles. Some more painful than others. We all have had our own paths to walk. Sometimes it seems like a soul will choose a life path loaded with, often severe, personal challenges, perhaps to ensure there would be an awakening. For many of us, is has been over the last few years that our lives got turned upside down. Where everything we thought life would bring us, is perhaps lost forever. We can avoid the possibility of pain as well. How many of us have had our hearts broken. Perhaps crushed. And now we just don’t want to go “there” ever again. It is the pain itself, or the possibility of pain, that can freeze us in our tracks. Perhaps the memory of painful events. Our personal history is loaded up with intense events from our past. Some are…

Resolving Your Past to Own Your Future It’s all in your hands There is a shift that happens within ourselves, when we choose to evolve. As we intend to grow ourselves spiritually. For many of us, the spiritual path wasn’t always in our life. For some, perhaps it was. But for many of us, we “found” our own innate desire to grow ourselves spiritually. If you were to look over your life, you might notice key events, moments or people, who would end up significantly changing your life’s direction. Some for the “better” and some for the “worse.” It is said that as we evolve our consciousness, we gradually take more and more responsibility for our life. Where we might have “blamed” the past for the reason we are where we are. For myself, I certainly had some very challenging situations in my life. One of these events, that ultimately…

You cannot exhaust it. Go ahead and try. I’ll watch. You cannot exhaust Your potential. Has your relationship gone flat? Feeling uninspired? Bored? Tired of the chaos? … which “relationship(s)” came to mind, when I didn’t put a context to the question? Was it with your spouse? Or perhaps your kids? Or maybe work has been difficult lately? But what about your relationship with … You? How similar will today be, compared to yesterday? Or, perhaps, compared to yesterday, and the day before. What I am getting at, is that we can easily fall into a norm. And one norm, after another, can make for a very unfulfilled life. You have an infinite well of inspiration at your disposal … if you actually choose to tap into it. Nature, by its very nature, is never “done.” It is always there with another variation. Another new creation. You are that very…

When Love has You Love loves You Love is a very powerful thing. I have noticed, over the years, that if I talk/write about Love, people tend to disconnect. And yet here we are. Love is a most curious thing, really. When people fall in Love, it is something to behold. And yet, so many people don’t even want to bother (to look for Love again). Cue Love. And Love comes rushing in. Love is really a very fascinating “thing.” I would say Love is very multi-dimensional. Love is every where and every when. Often we think about Love as a personal relationship. Parents loving their children. Lovers loving up on each other. Pets loving up on their owners. Angels loving up on us. And then there is God/Goddess … the BIG Love. But I suggest you throw all of that out the window. And look again with virgin eyes.…

What ARE you looking for? … to get clear about what you REALLY want. What is it that you want? Do you feel like there is a “better” place/feeling/condition/relationship for you? There is such a busy world “out there.” So many things that compete for our attention. Our egos can get in a mode, where we are just looking for the better feeling … and soon. I notice it at the grocery store. When folks hurry over to the checkout station that just opened up. There is this underlying feeling that hurry is going to get us where we “really” want to be. You can see it in traffic too. Perhaps any time we are in a situation where we are waiting in some form of line. … take a break. Just stand down and relax. Take three long deep breaths … and relax. There is an ocean of peace…

What would your Higher Self do? You CAN live your life entirely from your ego… So … what’s it going to be? Not to force or push, but rather, for better clarity. Our egos can have no problem consuming us. Where the vast majority of our consciousness is “consumed” by our egos. In other words, if we were to imagine the endless stream of consciousness that our Soul streams to us, through us, as us, as some type of measurable “fuel.” Well, perhaps our ego easily consumes all of it. And that is that. More of the same. You could predict who you were in the future, 10 years, 20 years or even farther out, because the likelihood of you actually having real lasting change show up, would be minimal. There is a notion of living that isn’t that common. And that is to … make waves. Make change. Not…

Ding Dong … Your Karma Has Arrived The Family and the Karma Ding Dong … The family has arrived for the holidays … And you feel??? The holidays are great times to get in touch with your family of origin. Those that raised you. Those that grew your ego. Our souls chose our family. Very carefully. Oftentimes looking for families that had a ton of karma. What the hell? Looking for karma? Really? When we hear the doorbell ring … or perhaps we are the ones pressing their doorbell … we are about to re-unite with our family. What feelings come to the surface? I was at a liquor store and I innocently asked what was their busiest day of the year? They said the Thanksgiving holiday was by far the most busy time of the year. When families get together and sit down at the same table … This…