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Our Emotional Struggles are really a Mental problem Our Emotions, themselves, are an impersonal thing One of the things that makes change more of a challenge, can be our emotions. We can get into a stuck repetitive cycle with our emotions. But the emotions themselves are a very natural and indifferent phenomenon. You could think of getting stuck in emotional re-actions, like yelling the same phrase into “echo canyon,” expecting to hear something different. When we find a particular emotion getting stirred up, over and over again, we can think that it is the emotions themselves that are creating the problem. But our emotions are a natural response to our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes bumping up against “reality.” A response is caused by something. When there is a response, it is a result of something else. Just like the echo itself is like a response of the “echo canyon,”…

What would make You feel “Better”? Is there a feeling you are looking for? There is a bit of a back and forth. Once we get (more) focused on what we want. As part of the “awakening” process, you start paying more attention to your thoughts and feelings. You start to discern what you prefer, and what you don’t prefer. You start to “mind.” You start to pay attention to how you feel, doing those things that, perhaps, you have always done. To discover our subconscious habits that we have instilled in ourselves, we need to stretch ourselves. If we always avoid bad feelings, we are actually accumulating the karmic energy behind them. If we don’t ever get to the point of actually feeling them, they are taking more of a proverbial hold on us. It isn’t like we have to feel our bad feeling all the time, like it…

Thoughts, feeling and beliefs are an inside job So often we can think that we are responsible for how others think, feel and believe. But those attributes come from the inside of each of us. Others have no domain in those arenas. Thoughts, feelings and beliefs are all an inside job. When I ask people who are engaged to be married if they are excited about it, one of the more common responses I often hear is, “They make me so happy.” Some attribute of their partner elicits a feeling of happiness within them. So what happens if that partner finds some dark inner feelings that they haven’t processed, and spends several weeks processing and healing that inner pain? Where does that happiness go? To be able to be real and authentic is to own your own feelings, period. In order to truly integrate and thus heal your past, you need to…