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Suffering is Optional The Untouchable You We have all had our struggles. Some more painful than others. We all have had our own paths to walk. Sometimes it seems like a soul will choose a life path loaded with, often severe, personal challenges, perhaps to ensure there would be an awakening. For many of us, is has been over the last few years that our lives got turned upside down. Where everything we thought life would bring us, is perhaps lost forever. We can avoid the possibility of pain as well. How many of us have had our hearts broken. Perhaps crushed. And now we just don’t want to go “there” ever again. It is the pain itself, or the possibility of pain, that can freeze us in our tracks. Perhaps the memory of painful events. Our personal history is loaded up with intense events from our past. Some are…

Forgiveness … giving up all hope for a better past Set yourself free We could call this the self-love blog. Forgiveness is a powerful tool to restore your ability to love yourself. But let’s start with those people in our lives that we haven’t forgiven. Perhaps there are several. Are there people in your past that you feel may have taken malice out on you? Perhaps it was your parents? Or perhaps you are very angry toward someone who has unexpectedly left you? Ether personally, or perhaps they passed away without saying goodbye? Perhaps they left you holding the bag? Or perhaps your lover cheated on you? Or you cheated on your spouse? Or … or … or … For myself, I have had to forgive several people in my life. Well, I didn’t have to forgive them. But in truth, it would just be a matter of time before I got…

Eat the Ice Cream We are here for the Human experience. What is it like to live life as a human BEing? Life is short … eat the ice cream. Ok, I know if all we do is eat ice cream, then perhaps our life would be short(er). ;- ) But there is a richness that is missed by millions and perhaps billions of people. Although it is available to all, our collective societies have some built-in stigmas. Perhaps not ALL cultures, but certainly in the Western mindsets. There is a temporal expansion. An elongating of life that really doesn’t serve us. If I were to use a metaphor, imagine a jet ski and a supertanker. A jet ski is nimble and quick. Changing direction, speed and outcomes in a moment. Whereas the supertanker is so big, it might take an hour to turn around, and it would need a…

Filling the Void What will go in its place? Do you remember a wonderful time in your life? Perhaps it was a wonderful past relationship? Or maybe a challenging job that you loved? And then something changed. There was a loss of sorts. Where that wonderful situation ended. For whatever reason. Leaving a void in its place. Like how the 2020 karmic tsunami changed everything. We might have been living high on the hog in 2019 … but then something happened. We can have a longing to return to that time, that circumstance, that was so nice. We can have a longing within us for a repeat performance. I want THAT again. But Nature, by its very nature, doesn’t copy itself. At least, not on purpose. There is nothing wrong to want whatever you want. But we can come up short, not because of what has happened, but how we…

The triggered Ego Here one moment … gone the next Have you ever had a deep friendship just vanish? Yikes! I worked with a very dear friend for a decade. He felt like a brother to me. We were very dear friends. We both worked in a TV station accomplishing big projects and having the times of our lives. And his wife was throwing him a surprise birthday party. Cool! I’m there! … or so I thought. I asked her where it was, and she said … YOU are not invited? What? Why! She hardly even knew me. We had met briefly perhaps several years prior. Why is this happening? I actually got angry. Why the hell can’t I come to his surprise party? I KNOW he would love to have me there… Didn’t matter. No. Well … it went downhill from there. Now he is “not allowed” to talk…

Sometimes life can feel unbearable We are human beings living out a karmic story. And sometimes it is the karma that can make this life feel so painful. Really painful. The chances are good that you have some unresolved pain in you. Right now. But can you feel it? There are events that can put us on our knees. There is a pain the hurts so much, that we are shaken to our very core. For myself, I have felt very intense pain several times in this lifetime. One was rather recent, with the unexpected dead of my spiritual brother. A man I walked side-by-side with, for over 30 years. But it doesn’t feel good to talk about pain. Is there a better thing for us to talk about? Certainly, there can be more enjoyable things to talk about, but there might be a day when some pain comes your…